The life of Helga Abild
Wanting to
have a peaceful and memorable end to is probably the best goal you
can have towards the end of your life. Especially if you have had such an
adventurous and exciting life. Helga Abild was brought into this world on the 9th
of November, 1939 shortly before the war broke out. She was born in Madiun,
Java as an only child. Helga’s father worked at a sugar factory in Purwodadi, a
place near Madiun. Her mother was a housewife who looked after her.
Helga was
born with quite an interesting mix of cultures. Her mother was German, her
father was Danish and she was born in Indonesia. She grew up playing with Dutch
and Javanese friends until the age of 6. Weekends were spent in a land rover or
jeep driving up the mountains with her parents, where it was nice and cool. Everything was good until the war came.
In the year
1945, war broke out in Indonesia. The Japanese came and took over, forcing
Helga and her mum into a concentration camp, getting split up from her father. They
were occupied there for quite some time until they were finally released when
war with the Japanese ended. During the war time, there was not much food and
not much to play with. So the only toy children had was the company of each
other, so Helga had to play with friends. After the war ended everyone was free
to go back to Europe. Which the Abild family did.
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| 4 generations of one family in a picture. |
They
travelled to Denmark, a whole new experience for such a little girl. She had to
learn the Danish language there. They had time to recuperate from such a
terrible time. Her parents had no job, but then eventually her father got a job
in Denmark thanks to his family there. After some time in Europe, Helga’s
father got homesick. Helga’s father really was in love with Java so for that
reason, they moved back to Java. This time to Malang, where Helga stayed with
her mother, whilst her father went back to Purwodadi to help rebuild the sugar
factory.
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| Helga with Alexandra |
Helga
stayed in Holland and continued on with life there. She met her first husband
there, Max Vos. She met him while she was working as a secretary in a
contracting company in Gouda. They eventually got married and Helga had one
child, Alexandra Vos at the age of 24. They had a long marriage until some less
good events caused a divorce. He passed away a while later.
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| Helga on the left, Alexandra in the middle and Max on the right |
Helga is
now almost 75 years old and living a happy life in Holland sharing moments with
friends and family. She has a positive outlook on the world and says that
“Everybody makes mistakes in life, but hopefully in the end they may be
forgiven”. Helga has had a very interesting life, and hopes that someday she
can have a peaceful ending to her life.







